Jeff Amber & Girls Andrea Jensen Photography Family Photographer Coeurdalene Photographer
Ok here goes...a peek into my world. About a year ago my ex-husband re-married. They invited my husband John and I to attend. We happened to be on a vacation in Colorado visiting my in-laws during their wedding, but they invited us. I offered to take their engagement photos as a gift from us. Instead, they asked if I could photograph them as a family, all together while in Boise where one of my daughters currently resides. So not too long ago, John, the two girls still at home and I, traveled to Boise to visit our eldest daughter and take these family images of my ex and his new wife.
Many people have asked, did it feel strange to do this? The answer is honestly, no. Why you ask?... Well, for one, Jeff and I have not been together for over a decade. Time has a way of mending old wounds. After the divorce we made a pact to always get along and at one point we even talked about being friends even though we were not married. We wanted this not only for our sanity, but most importantly for the girls' well being. We were never the fighting married couple to begin with but things just didn't work out. Keep in mind, it's not just us as divorced parents making this work out, it's the amazing new spouses we have found. Without the love and support from them, we would not be here today. Now when I say new, keep in mind John and I have been married almost 9 years. A special, heartfelt thank you to you for always being there for us in every way imaginable.
Today, when I look at all of us, I'm proud. Proud to be one of those parents who can make things work in the most healthy way for the girls. After all, they are a parents number one! My advice to all those divorced parents out there, find a way to make it work. Not for you but for the children you're raising. It literally means taking everything personal about it out of the picture. Every decision made between you two, is not for you two, but for the children. The children didn't have a choice in this matter. In their eyes, their world ends when their parents decide not to make it work any longer. Why not take the biggest and most crucial step as a divorced parent and make life as struggle free as possible, for the kiddos. They're already struggling in some ways to make their own way in this world. As parents, let's teach by example, and create a journey to be filled with happiness, acceptance, forgiveness, compromise, appreciation, harmony and most of all LOVE...
